Yay! Samuel and I took the 5 Love Languages Quiz, finally, and now I can write a long blog post about it!
Whenever I saw the 5 love languages
Words of Affirmation (compliments, verbal encouragement, saying “I love you” and “I missed you”)
Quality Time (having real conversations, going on dates, doing chores and projects together)
Receiving Gifts (gifts, whether purchased or not, cooking a favorite meal for them)
Acts of Service (doing chores for them unasked)
Physical Touch (sex, kissing, holding hands, hugging, arm around shoulder)
I would think to myself…I speak all of those languages! I want it all! And I didn’t think that any one of them was stronger than the others. But then I got access to the quiz and took it, and my love language was brought to the surface. Samuel felt the same way, and the same thing happened to him. Boy, I’m making this sound really serious! Yes, it’s just a quiz, but it was a fun one and I think had some valuable insights to offer us. Of course we both like all of those expressions of love. But when given a choice between two of them (which is what the quiz is based on) there are some we would choose over others.
These are our results:
Aleatha
Physical Touch: 11
Quality Time: 9
Words of Affirmation: 7
Acts of Service: 3
Receiving Gifts: 0
Samuel
Physical Touch: 10
Quality Time: 10
Words of Affirmation: 5
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0
As I had suspected, Samuel and I are pretty evenly matched. That would explain why we havn’t had any misunderstandings beyond actually hearing something wrongly, as far as I can remember. We both know what the other person wants, and what makes them happy, because it’s more or less the same thing we each want for ourselves.
This also explains why I never liked those other relationship books that generalize a bit too much and claim that women would rather have their men do dishes or change the baby’s diaper than get some hot lovin’ out of them. I’m sure my quiz results will change once we have kids and I have a lot more work to do, but for right now, give me the hot lovin’ any day. 
This also made me realize that the way Samuel could hurt me the most would be to refuse hugs or kisses or things like that. I would cry my heart out!
I have always been very sensitive to touch, as long as I can remember. I’m really ticklish, to the point where people just brushing past me or playing lightly with my hair would make me all jittery. I hated massages because people always did it too hard and it felt really seriously uncomfortable, and then when they softened up it tickled. I never liked giving people hugs, except my family, but it was often more out of a sense of duty than because I love hugging. But now that I’m married, with my husband at least I’ve found that I really crave physical touch!
In other news, I’m writing my “College Memoirs” and debating whether I should put it online when I’m done. It’ll be really long and have lots of juicy personal stuff in it….
Definitely post your college memoirs – or at least email me a copy!
I haven’t taken the quiz before – you should tell me where to find it! I just heard the languages, and knew immediately my top one (time), which I’m sure is Avram’s as well. I don’t really know what my second one would be – probably verbal? Hmmm, I really should take this test. Actually, I love it when Avram serves me, but I’m not always good at serving him back – is there something for ways you receive love, but don’t really show love?
Yes, I would have guessed physical with Samuel and you – when you two were dating and would always sit together, and then when you stood up you would stand up together, and walk across the room still attached (literally) at the hip – that was a pretty big sign.
haha! I never even noticed we did that! I noticed we always sat together, but not the rest!
I got the quiz in a stake enrichment packet, so I can’t really send it to you online. I will make a copy of it and mail it to you.
I wondered about the receiving/showing question. The quiz questions include both, so if you like to do both your score for that language would be higher, I think.
My score was almost identical to yours! You may have inherited this trait from me.
I really like hugs and you would never give any! I remember once at BYU I told you that I needed a hug just because and it was like pulling one of your teeth out!